Parenting is hard. Anyone who wants to argue that is guaranteed NOT a parent. The interesting thing about parenting is that it can be hard in so many different ways. What is the hardest part of parenting? It differs for everybody. I decided to ask some fellow parents what the hardest part of parenting is for them. Hopefully, their answers will offer insight and support to parents-to-be or parents that are struggling. Here are the answers I got.
The Hardest Part of Parenting
Kristi Horstmann @ Sunshine & Ivy
The hardest part about parenting for me is finding a work/life balance. So badly, I want to be at all of my kids parties, events, and school trips. However, getting the time off of work isn’t always easy. I want to be a hands on mom, but our lifestyle doesn’t afford me to stay home. I harbor a lot of working mom guilt knowing that I can’t always be there when they want me to be.
Jo and Leisa @ https://joleisa.com
We are twin bloggers and our kids are in their teenage years now. They have always been good kids and never made us overly anxious or nervous. As they get older however (they are now 19 and 17), we are really nervous about the bigger decisions they will have to make life lifetime partners, careers etc. As we also get older, believe it or not, we are wondering about the decisions that they will make for us when we longer can. Can you imagine? We are up thinking at nights whether they will let us live in their homes with their families, or whether they will put us in a home for the elderly etc. It’s not easy you know! So I guess we better be treating them right !
Alex Bereniski @ Cultivating Kids and Chaos
Having kids is hard. Living with them is difficult. But life with teens is even worse, especially when they are headstrong, independent, sarcastic, smart-ass, know-it-all girls. Life goes on. Drink your alcohol, wear your headphones, hit the punching bag, and eat some chocolate. In time it all will pass…hopefully.
Michelle @ www.grownupessentials.com
I struggle when conflicts emerge between my 2-year-old and another kid. If my kid is the aggressor (snatching toys, hitting, pushing) I step in and correct the behavior. Thankfully most parents do the same, but not all do, sometimes because they aren’t paying attention. When this happens I remove my child and explain to her that the other kid was behaving inappropriately. But then what? Is it up to me to correct the other child? Or should I approach the parent? Or just let it go? And what if it happens again? I wish I was more confident about how to approach this situation.
Arthur Vaughn @ Inclusive Teach.com
“I worry about toxic people (“Toxic relationships are ones in which someone’s own negative behavior can cause emotional damage or contaminate the way a child sees himself or herself.”) My son’s 1st teacher caused him to lose his confidence, he was sad all the time. Not his happy goofy self at all. Luckily his next teacher made it her goal to get him back, and she did.”
Allie @ Live Love Mess
For me, the hardest part about parenting is trying squeeze all the household duties into a two hour nap time each day. I feel like I’m always playing catch-up and won’t ever be ahead. It’s near impossible to clean or work when my daughter is awake because she’s into everything right now, so during her awake hours we play, which I love. A messy house is just normal for us now
Samantha @ http://journeytosahm.com
For me, it’s time management. Currently, I am a stay at home mom to my 2 year old. I actually stopped working because it was too much and I didn’t have enough time. I told my husband, “Oh yes, I will get all the cleaning done during the day and we will have all night and weekend to relax!” That lasted about 2 weeks and I was exhausted! My daughter is getting even more demanding in her terrible 2’s and needs my constant attention. That means even less time to get the things done I want!
Kam Smith @ www.OurFamilyPassport.com
I think the hardest part of parenting is staying patient with the selective hearing haha. Like for real… how many times do I have to tell you to not chase the cat, please don’t pick your boogers, or stop kicking the seat in front of you on the airplane? I know you hear me, little dude! But then your “I’m sorry for not listening, Mommy” makes up for it… sometimes :).
Melissa Uhles @ https://penandparent.com/
I wanna say everything about it is hard! But the hardest part of parenting for me right now is having to repeat myself constantly and the follow through with consequences. It can be exhausting feeling like a nag all the time. At some point I will have to give the control freak part of me a rest but for now I remind my kid to brush his teeth twice a day so he doesn’t have to get another cavity filled. Getting quiet personal space to myself has always been a challenge too, but I’ve been working on teaching my son the importance of boundaries. We’re getting there!
Emily @ www.sandboxacademy.com
I am a mom of 2, ages 1 & 3. I have been a working mom, a stay at home mom, and now a work at home mom. All three are tough and rewarding. The hardest part of parenting for me is being the calm to their storm. My daughter recently turned 3 and I swear at 3 the emotions are at full extremes. She is either super excited and loving life or having an epic meltdown and there is no in-between. My son is 18 months old and the same is true at this age because he knows exactly what he wants to tell us, but lacks the vocabulary. So when it is 8 am and we are on meltdown #3 about the color of our sippy cup, it is HARD as a momma to be that calm to their storm, because by this time it is Momma who is ready to have epic meltdown #4.
Rose @ Our House of Love
Parenting is a tough gig. As a mum of three little girls, the thing I struggle with the most is making time for myself. I have to be super organized and make sure I stick to my plan most days to have enough time left for myself! Most days I can pull it off, but others, not so much.
When you’re constantly at the beck and call of other people it is very easy to forget to attend to your own needs. I’m not just talking about basic needs and activities of daily living. I’m talking about needs that fulfill your desire to be stimulated (academically, professionally, creatively). The desire to have a project of your own that is not about washing, cooking and transporting children each way of the compass!
I love my kiddos, don’t misunderstand me, and I would never have it any other way. But I do miss working on something other than domestic bliss…
Dr. Nadia @ The Mindful MD Mom
Shahana Craig Norton @ shahanamay.com
For me, it’s living with bipolar and the guilt it brings when i can’t do much of anything to help with the kids. That and worrying about what mental disorders my kids will inherit from me because of it.
Shannon Lambert @ http://makingmommas.com/
Sleep deprivation!! It messes with your brain! Makes you do and be things you wouldn’t normally do!! I have six boys and the last three NEVER slept. Those were some brutal days! I think, looking back, I was one nap away from insanity!!!
Not accidentally taking my anger and frustration with other people out on him. As in yelling more frequently, having to walk away and catch myself more and remembering he’s only a baby. He doesn’t understand yet.
Jenny Welsh @ www.homeafterthree.com
One day, I will look back and be grateful to have had a strong willed and independent child, but right now I am tired! My son is hilarious, social and fun to hang out with. He is also stubborn and the very definition of “three-nager.”
Every day is a series of questions and self-doubt as a behavior modification method that worked yesterday suddenly doesn’t work today. Should I have disciplined in that moment or shown grace? Does he need a timeout or a hug? When I let him wear the same tee shirt and snow boots for three days in a row did I set myself up for failure if I ever want him to wear something different in the future?
It’s challenging not to become absorbed by this kind of second guessing. While there are moments when I am so frustrated that I have to just throw my hands up and laugh, most of the time I’m actually really proud of the little guy. He is honest and tough, and he’s making me a stronger mama one meltdown at a time.
Amandela Harris @ http://www.meettheharrisfamily.com/
The hardest part of parenting is the feeling that you are not doing enough. So many things influence our kids and their main influence should be their parents. Unfortunately, there are not enough hours in the day and mom and dad have to work to keep housing and food in supply for the family. And so, essentially parents are doing everything they can to make sure their child’s needs are fulfilled. However, sometimes this causes parents to miss out on other opportunities with their kid. That’s my life in a few words and I wonder if it gets any easier.
Rose @ http://rosebarnett.com
Y’know that feeling when you are just exasperated with your kids but now they are all in bed? Relief. Then comes the knocking on the door. Ok, fine. Get up, tend to their needs. Start to settle back into your book, movie or Instagram feed and there’s another knock. Yep… accepting that mom’s never have a true clocking out, time off, vacation or any such thing, that’s the hardest part of motherhood. That’s why my blog centers around encouraging moms.
Lisa @ Me and My Mom Friends
There are so many hard parts. It seems it is always changing for me. When my son was a baby, I would say the sleep deprivation was the worst. Everyone knows that newborns don’t sleep. What they don’t tell you is that older infants don’t sleep either.
When my son first started walking, the answer to this would have been the constant worry about injury. He was always toppling over, bumping his head, or getting into things.
Now, my son is 3. My answer has changed again. Now the hardest part of parenting is not laughing when he says a bad word or something inappropriate! Kidding! (Not really kidding, it happens more than I’d like to admit. Honestly though, the hardest part now is starting to let him go. It is difficult to realize he no longer needs me as much as he did. He still needs me, and will for a long time, but not like he used to. He used to need me for everything. Now, he is very independent. He will get his own snacks, and wants to do things himself. He wants to play with other children instead of mom. THAT is the hardest part for me right now.
So what is the hardest part of being a parent for you? Let me know in the comments below!