As if having a toddler isn’t hard enough, sometimes we end up with tall toddlers. Children that are way larger than most other children their age. It will have some advantages. However, there can be some major disadvantages. My son is very tall for his age. His father is 6’6″ and I am 5’7″ so its in his genes. Right now at the age of 3, he is the size of some 5 year olds. Here are some of the things I’ve run into that are the disadvantage of having a tall toddler.
Nothing Ever Fits Right
This can be a huge disadvantage of a tall toddler. The sizes never seem to fit. For my son, who is a string bean, I have the hardest time finding pants that fit. If they fit his tiny waist, they end up being way too short. If i get the right length, they fall down to his ankles within 3 seconds of putting them on. I keep wishing they made baby clothes in tall sizes. (If anyone can sew and wants to collaborate on this, please contact me.)
I have found some solutions for this issue though. For one, I try to find jeans with an adjustable waist strap. This way I can size up for length, but cinch the waist so they don’t immediately fall off. For sweat pants or other breathable fabric pants, I have found that the Garanimals brand sold at Walmart works the best. The elastic in the waist is typically tighter, with more stretch, allowing to size up without falling off my son’s waist. I have also found a product on Amazon that is like a belt for small children. It’s called the Dapper Snapper and it threads through the belt loops of the pants (not all the way around, just through 2-3) and snaps to help cinch.
*Note – I have no affiliation with these brands or products. I just want to share what I have found to be helpful.
More Trouble Within Reach
Ahhh, I miss the good old days of being able to set things on my kitchen table, or counter tops, or atop of the dresser in my bedroom, and know that they were out of reach. Sadly, those days ended pretty much when my son started walking at 9 months. Because of his height, he could reach higher surfaces at a way younger age than most children. This was a huge disadvantage of having a tall toddler.
Not only did this mean that stowing things out of reach became impossible pretty quickly, but he also had access to things that I didn’t necessarily think to baby proof. I figured he would be tall, but never realized how fast he’d get that way. I had to quickly learn to be very careful about what I was leaving out.
Suddenly, while making dinner, I had to be very aware of where I set down knives or utensils. Once, I absentmindedly left a black dry erase marker on the kitchen table. Turned my back for 2 seconds, and had a new beautiful masterpiece scribbled on my white kitchen wall.
If you would like more tips on baby proofing your home, please click here.
The Judging Looks of Assuming Strangers
This disadvantage of having a tall toddler is one of the worst. When your child’s height doesn’t really match their age, people will automatically assume they are older. At the age of 18 months, my son was the size of most 3 year olds.
We would go places, like a zoo, or a children’s play place, and I would get questioned for trying to get the “Under Age 2” price for admission. Nobody believed this giant boy was only 1.5. I swear I considered carrying a copy of his birth certificate for a while.
When your 3 year old’s height is that of most 5 year olds, you will get a lot of looks when your child acts their age. People think because they are big, they are older, and more mature. If my son whines, or pouts, or acts up, or does anything every other 3 year old in the world does, we get judged. I’ve seen the looks. Usually, its from people without small children.
“Can’t she control her kid?”
“Isn’t he a little old to be acting like that?”
“Wow, he should know better!”
Thankfully, nobody has openly commented to me. I probably wouldn’t handle it well. But I see these thoughts in the looks they give. It makes me crazy and I just want to scream “HE’S FREAKIN’ THREE!” Its just another disadvantage of having a tall toddler.
There can be some disadvantage to having a tall toddler. However, if you prepare yourself for the struggles and learn to tune out the judgement of others, you’ll barely notice. Because of my son’s height, we can do things with him like ice skating (because with the height comes big feet that fit into skates sooner). He has been able to help around the house more, and even become a little more independent faster than some other kids his age. My baby boy is tall, but I wouldn’t change that for the world.